I remember approaching 40. A significant birthday by any standards. Dang, to be so young again. I was coming out of a period of great heartbreak and, you got it, significant growth. One seems to precede the other. That's as it should be. Everyone has heartbreak, it comes in a multitude of shapes and sizes. They are a gift of sorts. Some heartbreaks are clearly visible, some are carefully hidden from public viewing. Some we only share with close friends, some are shared with the world without our permission.
This comes to mind as I am in a period of growth, and recently had, an almost significant birthday. Frankly, I like the insignificant birthdays better. Growth is painful, for the most part. It can't be avoided, and is best served with a side of grace and gratitude. It is awash with questions of inadequacy, remorse and reflection. I know I'm in good company as I share this.
We do the best we can. Some will only see small pieces of the puzzle and judge accordingly. Some, those closest to our hearts, know the whole story and love accordingly. Growth is a process of holding on and letting go. Of inhaling and exhaling, of embracing the significant, and relinquishing the insignificant. It is a critical part of our survival. It softens us even as it strengthens us. We come out better on the other side. That I can promise you. So trust the process, trust the Provider and in the meantime....embrace the journey. Therein lies the significance.