Internet Dating & other Applications

I have a relative writing a book on Internet dating. My question is how soon will it be published? Many of us, who have dabbled our toes in that pond, or jumped clear into the pool can relate. Many need that book, like...yesterday.

Some may not realize that is how my beloved and I met. Actually, our meeting was part of a bigger plan. But, ultimately, the Internet was the conduit that led from one of us to the other. From one state to another, one time zone to another.

It was a long process, but the beauty of it was neither of us was looking for a long distance relationship. It evolved over a period of time which gave us time to build a good friendship before chancing anything more.

In a time of instant access sometimes things get rushed. We try to cram all kinds of things in and forget that maturity takes time. Well, there is a brilliant comment. Let me quote myself...."maturity takes time". I'm thinking instead of a phone or computer application that plays games, or provides other services, we need an application for maturity. One for faith, humor, commitment and monogamy would be awesome too.

As we look down the road towards a second marriage for both of us we will need this application. We don't know all the secrets to a long, pleasurable and sustaining marriage. We look around us for examples of how we'd like our relationship to be. We see examples of how we never want it to be. We have good days, and days we'd like to throw in the towel. There are days we wonder if the towel is long enough to hang a certain someone by.

We know the Internet brought us together, under the guidance of the big guy upstairs. We know He plays an important role in our life. How we apply our self to this relationship is what defines it.

The gods of Internet dating, and the other one upstairs, certainly blessed us. I would be remiss if I didn't say they both messed with our heads some, and our hearts a lot. No doubt they laughed their you know what off too. But, it's all good and we are grateful. Now, to develop that application.....

Add Some Color

Nothing adds color to your life like love does. And, besides that fact, I just plain love color. Lucky for me I get to work with color every day.

Brides love color too. That is one of the first questions a bride gets asked. What colors are you using? They want to color the very beginning of their marriage with a color that makes them sing. In all honesty I'd never considered color in this way. It was just one of those wedding things you did.

This time around, I'm paying more attention. We all should. Even if you are not getting married, just married or hoping to be married. We need to enjoy the color in our lives. We need to make a conscious effort to embrace it.

Just like in our relationships we need to invite both color and love in. Each and every day.

Romance

The fact that August 8-14 is National Resurrect Romance week has me thinking. First of all, who thinks up this stuff. And, how do you get a "National _____ Week" anyway? I can think of many "National ______ Week's" I'd like to see happen, but that's another whole blog.

Also, what about the premise of weddings being "romantic". So maybe I'm being a skeptic here. Weddings are pretty scripted, planned, organized and coordinated. With all the details involved they need to be. So with all that planning is it still romantic? If you are passionate about who you are marrying it is.

If you are passionate about how you are living your life you could be a very romantic single. We could be, if we tried, very romantic with ourselves. But generally we apply that term to how we treat our beloved. Maybe the key word is "treat". How do you treat your beloved? When was the last time you treated your beloved?

Plus the backbone of the National Resurrect Romance Week is that being romantic is not about how much money you can spend. It's about making a personal effort to be romantic. Thinking of them first and treating them. Frankly, those are the investments that pay off the best.

Irony

I work in the bridal industry. Not in the wedding apparel industry, but the wedding accessory industry. Reno, is is looking for work, applied for a job with a company who, you guessed it, serves the bridal industry.

Ironic, yes! Whether anything comes of that is to be determined. But think of the dinner time conversations we could have. Think of the perks we could enjoy if we ever really get to planning our own wedding. Think of him advising me on current wedding trends.

Even better, I could turn over all the wedding details to him, and not worry myself sick over the outcome! He could be groom and wedding planner all rolled in to one. I could be bridzilla and he'd slave to make me happy. Oh wait, he does that anyway. We could talk weddings until the cows come home like women just love to do.

Oh wait, maybe not. But a girl can dream can't she?