We attended a wedding over the weekend. It provided an excellent checklist for ours. I think we are in pretty good shape. Well, except for the fact it's 30 days from ours, the house will go up on the market soon and I have to/get to travel 15 out of the next 30 days. No pressure at all.
What I was impressed by in the wedding we attended, was the gratitude of the Chad and Emily for the love and support their family and friends give them. Gratitude is everything.
When you look past the gowns, the flowers, the food, the booze, the whole facade of the wedding you get to the important part. Family, friends, vows, commitment and gratitude.
That is what I plan to focus on this next 30 days. When the packing, cleaning and showing of the house pushes my buttons. When my hormones threaten to go ballistic. I'll try to sound an alarm when that is about to happen, but no promises. Whenever the details threaten to overwhelm me, and they will, I'll try to think of Chad and Emily. And what is really truly important.
Family, friends, vows, commitment....and oh yes....gratitude. The rest will sort itself out, thankfully.
Monday, May 30, 2011
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Spanx You Very Much
As a young bride the dress is probably thee most important aspect of the wedding. Well, besides the groom. As an older, and hopefully more mature bride, I think the proper girdle is the most important aspect of enhancing the dress for the wedding. Foundations, the sort with spandex and lots of it are vital. Except now they don't call them girdles. The brand I got, from a smart purchase off of eBay, is a Spanx.
So far I love my Spanx. Not quite sure how to easily get into it, but I love it. Have some concerns about getting out of it and not looking like a dork, but I love it. Wondering if it has any idea the g-forces it will need to pull to make me look svelte and fabulous, but hey, I trust it!
As mentioned, I did buy it on EBay and was a wee bit disappointed when it came and I realized it was missing a key component. Like the little straps that attach it to your bra to keep it from rolling the waves of a not so thin midriff. No worries, I'll just check out their website thinking certainly that would be a accessory you could buy separately. Hmmm...not the case. Again, no worries. I'll just write then and explain my predicament.
Obviously the good people at Spanx know their product is the stuff miracles are made of. They also know customer service. They happy offered to send me them free of charge. Sweet! Thanks to the kindness of strangers, and industrial strength spandex, my Spanx will stay safely in place during the wedding. Phfewww....that is a good thing for everyone involved.
Thanks Spanx!
So far I love my Spanx. Not quite sure how to easily get into it, but I love it. Have some concerns about getting out of it and not looking like a dork, but I love it. Wondering if it has any idea the g-forces it will need to pull to make me look svelte and fabulous, but hey, I trust it!
As mentioned, I did buy it on EBay and was a wee bit disappointed when it came and I realized it was missing a key component. Like the little straps that attach it to your bra to keep it from rolling the waves of a not so thin midriff. No worries, I'll just check out their website thinking certainly that would be a accessory you could buy separately. Hmmm...not the case. Again, no worries. I'll just write then and explain my predicament.
Obviously the good people at Spanx know their product is the stuff miracles are made of. They also know customer service. They happy offered to send me them free of charge. Sweet! Thanks to the kindness of strangers, and industrial strength spandex, my Spanx will stay safely in place during the wedding. Phfewww....that is a good thing for everyone involved.
Thanks Spanx!
Monday, May 16, 2011
Inviting....
You are just inviting trouble? We invited guests for dinner? She/he has an inviting personality? I have never pondered invitations so much before.
We are making progress. Today I dropped the invitations into the mail. I'd be remiss if I didn't say that was an act of faith. I took small stacks of them and prayed them into the mail box. You probably think I'm nuts. If I am, so be it.
But why wouldn't I do that?? I prayed for those we love, to pray for our love. I prayed we are making the right choices. I know, strange time to be wondering that. I don't doubt the relationship, but I'm wise enough now to know it's not to be taken lightly. The first time around I just assumed all would be hunky dory. This time I'm inviting faith, our family and friends, and the world to support us in this life journey. That makes those invitations pretty precious if you ask me.
We also met with the Pastor who will preside over our wedding. Ahhhh, how comforting to have His hand to guide us. It may be a marriage to two people, but it is a union of three. We need the big guy upstairs to keep us safe, sane and from being stupid along the way. Lord knows we have those "what was I thinking moments".
All that said the invitations we've extended are a very big deal. They are more than lovely paper, dates/time and directions. They are precious words and heartfelt wishes for people to share our day. Turns out those invitations are sacred in their own way. You have to love that.
We are making progress. Today I dropped the invitations into the mail. I'd be remiss if I didn't say that was an act of faith. I took small stacks of them and prayed them into the mail box. You probably think I'm nuts. If I am, so be it.
But why wouldn't I do that?? I prayed for those we love, to pray for our love. I prayed we are making the right choices. I know, strange time to be wondering that. I don't doubt the relationship, but I'm wise enough now to know it's not to be taken lightly. The first time around I just assumed all would be hunky dory. This time I'm inviting faith, our family and friends, and the world to support us in this life journey. That makes those invitations pretty precious if you ask me.
We also met with the Pastor who will preside over our wedding. Ahhhh, how comforting to have His hand to guide us. It may be a marriage to two people, but it is a union of three. We need the big guy upstairs to keep us safe, sane and from being stupid along the way. Lord knows we have those "what was I thinking moments".
All that said the invitations we've extended are a very big deal. They are more than lovely paper, dates/time and directions. They are precious words and heartfelt wishes for people to share our day. Turns out those invitations are sacred in their own way. You have to love that.
Friday, May 6, 2011
Black and White
The invites are here - it's all in black, white and hot pink. Oh baby!
I don't recall being as excited about the invites the first time around. Perhaps it's a maturity thing? Maybe a revelation about where I/we are in life. It's darned exciting. Perhaps it's because I've invested some time and energy in the creation of these invites. Rather than flipping through a book and saying "I'll take that one!"
Now, lest you think I'm a creative genius I will say I had help. Lots of help. Elizabeth, from Social Grace, http://social-grace.net, is the master mind. I kept throwing random idea's out and she was able to snag a few from left field, right field and from the dug out and shape them into a winner. I had her scrambling a time or two. No, they are not baseball related, but that is analogy that came to mind so I ran with it.
Of course, now I wish my handwriting was precise and oh so elegant. Okay, how about even neat and tidy? Maybe the cursive Fairy will sprinkle some magic fairy dust on me and my penmenship will blossom like a Spring garden. Or, maybe, my handwriting will pale with the joy that is written into the address of those we want to celebrate with. Ya, I think that's it.
Those we love won't notice the writing. When you get to the black and white of it, only the love will shine.
I don't recall being as excited about the invites the first time around. Perhaps it's a maturity thing? Maybe a revelation about where I/we are in life. It's darned exciting. Perhaps it's because I've invested some time and energy in the creation of these invites. Rather than flipping through a book and saying "I'll take that one!"
Now, lest you think I'm a creative genius I will say I had help. Lots of help. Elizabeth, from Social Grace, http://social-grace.net, is the master mind. I kept throwing random idea's out and she was able to snag a few from left field, right field and from the dug out and shape them into a winner. I had her scrambling a time or two. No, they are not baseball related, but that is analogy that came to mind so I ran with it.
Of course, now I wish my handwriting was precise and oh so elegant. Okay, how about even neat and tidy? Maybe the cursive Fairy will sprinkle some magic fairy dust on me and my penmenship will blossom like a Spring garden. Or, maybe, my handwriting will pale with the joy that is written into the address of those we want to celebrate with. Ya, I think that's it.
Those we love won't notice the writing. When you get to the black and white of it, only the love will shine.
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Wedding Mania
This could be solely about me. Or it could be about Kate and William. As in Kate and William and the Royal Wedding. Both are fairy tale stories. One in a very royal manner, one in a happy little second chance in life manner.
True, I don't have multiple dresses just waiting for the big day. I'm not trying to keep the details of my wedding as secure as a state secret. Actually, the state doesn't do well with that either. Obviously, there won't be a mad rush to do a knock off of my gown, like there will be Kate's gown. Frankly, that all sounds like a royal pain in the arse. I'd rather not know my dress is fashioned just like someone elses. But I digress.
I have to wonder what Kate's stress level is about now. If she is so done with the process, if she longs for some solitude, and if perhaps she would envy the intimate little event we are planning.
I will be watching her celebration. Part of me will be in awe of the pomp and circumstance, the fairy tale magic of it all. But the rest of me will be content with our personal ceremony. Too much mania is not a good thing for cherished moments. That is what we will have, cherished moments, hopefully sans the mania.
True, I don't have multiple dresses just waiting for the big day. I'm not trying to keep the details of my wedding as secure as a state secret. Actually, the state doesn't do well with that either. Obviously, there won't be a mad rush to do a knock off of my gown, like there will be Kate's gown. Frankly, that all sounds like a royal pain in the arse. I'd rather not know my dress is fashioned just like someone elses. But I digress.
I have to wonder what Kate's stress level is about now. If she is so done with the process, if she longs for some solitude, and if perhaps she would envy the intimate little event we are planning.
I will be watching her celebration. Part of me will be in awe of the pomp and circumstance, the fairy tale magic of it all. But the rest of me will be content with our personal ceremony. Too much mania is not a good thing for cherished moments. That is what we will have, cherished moments, hopefully sans the mania.
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Threads
Nice threads, new threads, picking up loose threads, the threads that hold us together. So many threads that sew our lives together. One often thinks of wedding dresses as a symbol of purity, well at least 30 years ago when I was a bride they did. Now it's a different story.
Still, it is a dress to remember. I hope I am being more deliberate with my choice (choices) this time around. I bought fabric yesterday to have my dress made. It's lovely and colorful, and while I can't visualize the finished product as well was I'd like, I trust my seamstress. Isn't that reminiscent of how we live our lives? We choose one part and build around it. Sometimes we alter the plan, other times we rip out and start again. In the beginning, and all parts of the process, we trust the maker.
I am certain, as a first time bride, I neglected to celebrate the dress. And the bride, for that matter. I'm working on that. We put on our wedding dress to look beautiful. When, in fact, we are beautiful, and then we put on our wedding dress.
Still, it is a dress to remember. I hope I am being more deliberate with my choice (choices) this time around. I bought fabric yesterday to have my dress made. It's lovely and colorful, and while I can't visualize the finished product as well was I'd like, I trust my seamstress. Isn't that reminiscent of how we live our lives? We choose one part and build around it. Sometimes we alter the plan, other times we rip out and start again. In the beginning, and all parts of the process, we trust the maker.
I am certain, as a first time bride, I neglected to celebrate the dress. And the bride, for that matter. I'm working on that. We put on our wedding dress to look beautiful. When, in fact, we are beautiful, and then we put on our wedding dress.
Friday, April 15, 2011
Who What When Where How
Or, Invitations 101.....
When you consider of all the excitement, the feelings, the information, the love that leads up to sending an invitation it really makes you think. Okay, it makes me think. It almost needs to be an animate object rather than paper and envelope.
It contains years of the relationship growing and developing. It contains hopes and dreams. It contains pertinent information. It reflects your personality. For us, it should come with a little dog fur stuck to it, some bling, and something to toast with. Maybe we should send out wine glasses or dog bowls, I'm not sure which.
At the very least it should be stuffed with confetti, enveloped with love, sealed with faith, sing, dance and do the wave. Of course, it's a challenge to pack all this great stuff into one envelope.
Maybe I'm thinking too hard. Or maybe every step of this journey needs to be celebrated. Ya, always room for celebration...let's start today.
When you consider of all the excitement, the feelings, the information, the love that leads up to sending an invitation it really makes you think. Okay, it makes me think. It almost needs to be an animate object rather than paper and envelope.
It contains years of the relationship growing and developing. It contains hopes and dreams. It contains pertinent information. It reflects your personality. For us, it should come with a little dog fur stuck to it, some bling, and something to toast with. Maybe we should send out wine glasses or dog bowls, I'm not sure which.
At the very least it should be stuffed with confetti, enveloped with love, sealed with faith, sing, dance and do the wave. Of course, it's a challenge to pack all this great stuff into one envelope.
Maybe I'm thinking too hard. Or maybe every step of this journey needs to be celebrated. Ya, always room for celebration...let's start today.
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